Saturday, January 20, 2018

Easy for you, Difficult for me

Everyone is good at something. No one is good at everything. Yet we are always quick to say "Oh it's easy!" For you maybe, not necessarily for me.

I used to be very quick to say that, never thinking that the person I was saying it to might be hearing "If you can't do it you're stupid".  Of course I didn't mean that.

What we say is not always what is heard. The exact words might be but not the exact meaning. Our meaning gets translated into their meaning.  We don't just process words in a word-definitive, intellectual way but also in an emotional way.

I think we all know that, somewhere in our brain, but to have that awareness front and center at all times would make conversations slow and cumbersome. Or even bring them to a grinding halt.

I don't even know where I am going with this. But I can tell you what prompted it. Friday is a laundry day and as I was happily (yes, I said happily) folding sheets in the laundry room I was thinking "I don't know why people have a problem folding fitted sheets into a nice tidy square" and then I thought "Because what's easy for me, isn't necessarily going to easy for someone else."

Also -

You don't have to try something just because someone says you should, and makes you feel bad about yourself because you choose to not even try.

If it interests you, try it - might turn out well, then again it might not. You never know.

If it doesn't interest you, then blow it off.  Really.  And don't let anyone make you feel less because of it.

There are actually things I can do fairly well and yet they interest me not at all.  And vice versa.

And where have we heard all this before, pretty basic stuff.  And no, unfortunately it does not apply to required school courses.

And no, I will never ever try sushi/sashimi; like the guy from Texas said "Back home we call that bait".